The problem isn't that you don't care for yourself, it's that you've been conditioned to do it last.
You've read the articles. You've lit the candles. You've tried journaling, yoga, time-blocking, and saying "no"... but it still doesn't feel like enough.
You're tired.Not just physically, but emotionally, spiritually, existentially.
And the "self-care" advice out there? It feels too shallow for what you're carrying.
What you really need isn't a checklist. It's a total reimagining of how you relate to yourself.
Because for most high-functioning women, the problem isn't that you don't care for yourself. It's that you've been conditioned to do it last.
The truth about self-care:
Real self-care isn't a luxury. It's not a reward for doing everything perfectly.
It's not something you "earn" after you've met everyone else's needs.
Real self-care is about:
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Setting boundaries even when it's uncomfortable
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Saying "no" even when it disappoints someone
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Listening to your body's quiet whisper before it becomes a scream
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Letting go of guilt when you rest, pause, or don't produce
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Choosing yourself, even when no one claps for it
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Nurturing yourself in a world that tells you not to
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Embracing joy and calm in a chaotic world that praises being busy
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Honoring your inner wisdom and tending to your nervous system
This kind of self-care isn't soft. It's radical.
It requires healing, not hacks.
Why boundaries can feel so hard
If the word "boundary" makes your chest tighten, you're not alone.
Many women, especially those with anxious attachment or people-pleasing patterns, struggle with boundaries because they've been taught that love means self-sacrifice. Boundaries can feel especially hard if you've never had them before.
Healthy boundaries are not walls, they're the structures that keep love from becoming resentment.
Boundaries protect your peace, preserve your energy, and help you show up more fully in the ways you want to.
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In therapy, you'll learn how to:
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Recognize when your boundaries are being crossed
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Set limits without guilt, collapse, or over-explaining
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Say "no" in a way that honors you
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Rebuild safety around expressing your needs
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Create relationships where you can be your full, authentic self
You can't heal through self-criticism
Self-compassion isn't weakness. It's not letting yourself off the hook. It's learning how to speak to yourself like someone you love.
So many of the women I work with are incredibly kind... to everyone but themselves.
Therapy gives you space to explore:
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The origin of your inner critic-and how to soften it
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How shame, guilt, and perfectionism fuel your anxiety
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What it means to offer yourself grace without "slipping"
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Why rest is not failure-it's nervous system repair
This isn't about turning off your ambition or dimming your light.
It's about learning to rise without abandoning yourself in the process.
Who this work is for:
I specialize in working with high-achieving, emotionally drained women who are:
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Exhausted by performing strength
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Struggling with people-pleasing or perfectionism
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Anxiously attached in relationships
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Feeling disconnected from their bodies, boundaries, or joy
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Trying to "fix" themselves when what they really need is care
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Ready to build sustainable healing-not another productivity hack
You Are Allowed to Choose Yourself
You don't have to earn rest.
You don't have to apologize for your boundaries.
You don't have to wait until burnout, breakdown, or betrayal to begin this work.
You're allowed to say:
"I want more."
"I need support."
"I'm ready to start showing up for me."
If you're ready to stop abandoning yourself, and start coming home to who you really are, I'd be honored to walk with you.
This is what real self-care looks like. This is where it begins.
What to Expect in Our Sessions
I'm Sarah: I hold space for women who are done abandoning themselves.
If you've spent your life being everything for everyone else while quietly sidelining your own needs, I see you. Boundaries feel hard because they probably weren't modeled to you. Self-care feels confusing because it's never really felt safe to put yourself first. That's not failure, that's survival.
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I specialize in supporting women who are ready to come home to themselves, gently & without guilt. Together, we'll explored the roots of self-abandonment, unlearn the pressure to perform, and begin the sacred work of choosing yourself.
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Self-compassion isn't selfish or weak. It's incredibly strong, and it's where healing begins.
